I know most blog posts are funny, crafty, clever, or updates on life,
but this one is about me being transparent for a moment….
Let’s just get this out of the way:
I am NOT the perfect mom with the perfect little kids and perfect house.
I am a mom who thinks that motherhood doesn’t come naturally for most and whose kids are generally well behaved but have days when I feel like I could give them away to the next person that knocks on the door and let’s not even talk about my house.
Lately I have really been struggling with this revelation I made:
If my kids are such a blessing and I chose to have them,
why do I treat them like they are an inconvenience a lot of the time??
This isn’t a pleasant thing for me to admit, but I think that there are others out there that might feel the same way or do the same thing.
Why do we do that?
All I know is that my calling in this season of life is to be a mother. I feel like I am not taking advantage of every moment and easily get frustrated over spilled milk, tea, juice, water, cereal… I really have nothing better to do than take care of them, yet I often respond to them like they are interrupting the most important thing ever. It’s so ridiculous. I hate it.
Know this feeling?
I get so frustrated with myself because I am frustrated over silly things which makes me even more frustrated than ever before and I usually take this frustration out on the kids.
{ which is totally unfair to them }
I think that the process of motherhood is always challenging and very time consuming. It’s time to stop being selfish and invest quality time in our children because they grow up way to fast and I’m told “we’ll miss this one day.” Honestly, there are days that I couldn’t even tell you what we did. It’s just a blur and I realize that I just wasted another day. We know we aren’t even guaranteed tomorrow….so why are we wasting the days we do have??
Acknowledging this problem is the first step.
Repentance is the next.
Submitting yourself to God is next.
If we are operating out of love, we will respond to our children out of love.
“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.” Phillipians 2:3
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2
I am in no way near where I want to be as a mom, but with the grace of God, I can accept who I am and that I am not perfect, nor will I ever be. Parenting is hard and I think more people should talk about the struggles of parenting instead of pretending everything is perfect.
{ Thanks for letting me be transparent. }
I think that this is something that most moms struggle with – I know that I do. It is so hard to not be selfish. Thanks for being transparent, some days it helps to know that I am not alone.
I too am working on this. Instead of telling them, in a minute, I just go. I am also reminding myself often that I need to just get over it and play or teach something to them.
It is still an uphill battle, but at least I will have done my best.
AWESOME… I think ALL moms feel this way during seasons of parenting… I can tell you the growing up too fast is all so true my oldest turned 16 last Tuesday, drove around picking up applications, came home filled them out, turned them in, my husband went along {waited in the car} for his first interview yesterday {hubby called me while waiting in the car and asked if I was ready for this next step into manhood for our son} to which I replied, I would much rather him be here at home pacifier in his mouth taking a nap, where did my baby go? As of today at 1 he will be off to his first day on the job!! sniff sniff…
Thanks for being real so others can relate!
Preach it girl! thanks for sharing – you know I often feel the same.
I feel ya, I have been struggling with this forever and realized that as we all have a “test” in our life, something that we will struggle with forever… this is mine. I’m not giving up trying to be a better mom though, I just know it’s always going to be a struggle area for me
Glad to know I’m not the only one! I try not to get too hard on myself when I realize I’m being a crappy mom. I instead try to tell myself that, with God’s help, it’s not too late to change and I can learn from my mistakes. I tell myself that A LOT! I mean A LOT!
I just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to say thanks for this post. You put into words something that has been bothering me about myself lately and I think now that it’s been put into words, I can correct it. I feel like I was supposed to read this today. Thank you!
Beautiful post – it’s so refreshing to read something real from a blog on parenting.
Transparency is beautiful, keep it up darling.
Hi Kellie
Good honest words. I can remember many times when the kids were growing up feeling like such a failure as a mom, but you know what? We can never be the perfect mom and that’s perfectly okay. Actually if we could be the perfect Mom, we would never aks the Lord for help and our kids would never have to turn to God for help either because we would meet all their needs.
I heard somewhere that all kids need is a “good enough” mom. At the time I thought that seemed wrong, but now I’m wondering if maybe it’s true.
Hugs, Rhondi
I seriously don’t think there is any mom who is anywhere near where she wants to be as a mom. It doesn’t matter how happy or healthy the kids are, any one tiny thing can make us feel like complete failures as mothers at any moment. Your honestly is wonderful. I am so sick of blogs that portray their lives as magical, beautiful, picturesque and utterly perfect. I’m sorry, but they must not live here on earth or maybe they play with dolls too much.
You, however, rule!
Thanks!